From my teen years, I have never been a fan of Valentines Day. This is clearly noted in my cynical musings from my past posts on Valentine’s Day, such as –
“The 14th is upon us, so stock up on all those sugary sweets that could show love, may provide a sugar high, and will add unnecessary calories to your day.”
I will mention that when I wrote these posts I was single, dating here and there, but not in a committed relationship. Today am I writing from a perspective of someone who has been dating my boyfriend for over a year. Our story on how we met is romantic. A story that included him driving cross country from Northeast Ohio to Seattle, Washington to be with me. This was after only knowing each other for for less than a month prior to me leaving for a new location, the time leading up to his journey was strictly long distance.
I’ve always considered myself a hopeless romantic. Being one that once she found the one she loved, would be completely enamored by that one. But at the same time as I view myself as a hopeless romantic, I also have doubts about true love. While I have a love for fairy tales and can get wrapped up in the story lines, I consider the context of it and don’t see how something with false characters can translate to this life with humans. As I progress in my relationship, I am truly seeing what true love is about, it’s about selflessness. It is about putting the person you love’s well being before your own happiness. It’s not about what you buy for another, the compliments you shower upon one another. While both of those can show love, they are not determining factors in true love.
So on Valentine’s day, ignore the crap of what popular culture states as ‘truth.’ Forget the chocolates and gifts. If you are in a relationship, change your behavior to focusing on the other’s well being. If you are single, use this time to know thy self. Not having a full understanding of who you are, what you stand for, what you stand against will lead to issues in a future relationship.
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